What happens when we stop striving for self-worth and start speaking from it?

At a recent women’s wellness event, I shared a message that hit home—not just for the audience, but for me. It felt like both a whisper and a jolt.

I’ve spent so much of my life proving, striving, overworking—hoping to earn love, worth, and a sense of belonging. But in that one moment, the words came out, and the truth of them settled in:

Most of the time, I no longer do what I do to matter; I do what I do because I know I matter. That shift allows me to give more freely, love more fully, and show up more mindfully.

So I keep asking myself:

Is there any area where you're still doing something to matter?

What might you do differently if you remembered you already do?